As a family physician, I spend my days caring for others—helping patients navigate illness, prevention, and the complexities of daily health. As a mom of three wonderful children, I spend my mornings packing lunches, my evenings helping with homework, and the in-between moments trying to keep life running smoothly. In both roles, one truth stands out: moms are often the center of the family’s well-being. And yet, we are usually the last to care for ourselves.

This Mother’s Day, I want to offer a gentle reminder—taking care of your own health is not a luxury; it’s a necessity.

I see it every day in clinic. Women who delay their own checkups, ignore symptoms, or push through exhaustion because everyone else’s needs come first. While the intention comes from love and dedication, the long-term cost can be significant. Preventive care—annual exams, screenings, mental health check-ins—exists to catch problems early and keep you feeling your best. When moms stay healthy, families thrive.

Self-care doesn’t have to mean spa days or hours of free time (though those are wonderful when possible). It can be as simple as scheduling that overdue appointment, going for a walk, prioritizing sleep, or asking for help when you need it. It’s also about giving yourself permission to matter.

As both a physician and a mother, I’ve learned that caring for my family starts with caring for myself. When I am rested, healthy, and supported, I show up more fully—for my children, my patients, and my community.

So this month, alongside the flowers and celebrations, I encourage you to give yourself a different kind of gift: your own attention, your own care.

You deserve it—not just on Mother’s Day, but every day.

– Monica Salas, M.D.